I have been reading a lot about why we should make New Year’s resolutions and why we shouldn’t. There are plenty of social media posts and blogs giving a lot of detail about why their way is right and better. It can be a little confusing and overwhelming, all of these pieces of information and opinions being thrown at you. Honestly, I don’t think it really matters.
New Year’s Eve and the beginning of a new year marks a moment in time and can feel almost magical. That moment when the world has traveled around the sun 365 days. That we have entered a new moment in time where anything could happen and everything could change. It makes me smile just thinking about it. Maybe I am a bit of a romantic but I do believe that there are times throughout the year that makes everyone clutch on to the idea of a fresh start and a new beginning.
Change is inherently scary for most of us and at the same time we crave growth, and you can’t have growth without change. It is a total conundrum, double-sword, cognitive dissonance; whatever you want to call it, they are opposing forces. We all want to change, grow, do something different, take a chance, but at the same time, many of us are absolutely scared to death by it.
New Year’s Eve is one of those moments in the year where we are faced with this desire to change and grow. We set resolutions and goals hoping that it will hold us accountable. Unfortunately, most of us do not follow through with our resolutions and by March have totally burnt out on them. We realized that this change and growth we crave is scary, uncomfortable, and hard. Or it becomes apparent that those resolutions where unrealistic and were never a realistic expectation to have.
I know that I have been there. This year I am focusing on the intention behind the resolution. For example I want to travel more this year, be in nature more. Great goal, great resolution, but for me yumminess is in the intention behind wanting travel. I feel a great sense of joy, peace, and happiness when I experience new things through travel.
Behind the emotions of joy and bliss is always going to be self-care for me. When I feel joy I know I have done a self-care activity. When I do self-care activities I feel happier and healthier. I latch on to the intention behind the goal of traveling more: to be happier and healthier.
I challenge all of you to take this same perspective when setting your resolutions or your goals for this year. Look inward and connect with the feeling and intention behind each goal. When we are connected this way we are more likely to focus on making realistic changes and being able to stay the course without burning out half way there. When we focus on the journey and not the destination everything feels more achievable, we can stay present, and connect with your joy and bliss.
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